A stolen identity is the worst thing that can happen to a human being. You are no longer part of something. You become part of nothing. Who are you? Nobody. Your past is gone, and your future is no longer existent. You are much like a caged animal or a bird without wings.

I lost my wings after I declined a well-paid job offer. I turned my corporate identity in and freed myself. Two weeks later, I started freelance writing and became an “island unto myself”, as Sadghuru would put it. I was no longer part of the game —…

Whenever I had to kiss or hug a relative, it made me feel uncomfortable. As a child, you view the world from a different perspective. You are much smaller than the adults around you. Kids are considered cute. A hug is nothing uncommon to ask for, but still, it sucked — especially if I didn’t like the person I had to hug or kiss.

Imagine you would ask your 22-years old daughter to kiss your husband’s best friend. What would it look like? Awkward. But for your 5-years old it’s a common practice.

“Go and hug uncle Charly. He brought…

When you asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I couldn’t answer because I didn’t know. I wasn’t keen to explore a traditional career. Doctors scared me, office jobs bored me, and studying law didn’t interest me. I wasn’t keen to help people or to solve fundamental problems of humanity. All I knew was that I didn’t want to be a boring adult, much like my parents or their friends. They lacked passion. Work turned them into shadows of themselves.

Growing up, I wasn’t a talented kid. Some of my friends were sporty or musically. They…

When I started writing, the assumptions dropped like bombs as if it was my goal to expose people in my manuscripts. Is this revenge? Are you writing this to hurt people? Why is your writing so dark?

My thoughts collapsed into a deep dark hole. I felt much like Alice falling down the rabbit hole.

I sat down at my desk, hands in front of my face to hide the pain my eyes expressed after receiving another rejection from an editor I had previously sent a manuscript to. It was early January, and this editor who just e-mailed me was…

Yes, we like you to use your hands on us. Don’t spend money on a new toy or an awfully expensive set of lingerie — use what you got. There is nothing more sexy to a man than his ability to please us with his fingertips. It’s a good deal for you, too. Because it doesn’t cost any money, and, if you mastered the skill once, well you can apply it over and over again. Not only to please her but also to tease her.

Imagine you are at the beach. She just got out of the water, and her…

Writing fiction has always been close to me by heart, but nothing I ever intended to self-publish. I never intended to self-publish in the first place.

I still remember laughing at my friends when they suggested to me to start a blog. Back then, I was a sixteen-year-old girl who spent her time studying the latest fashion trends.

“A blog?”, I replied. “Why should I want to do that?”

Years later, I am close to my 100ths story here on Medium. Before you ask — yes, I consider Medium my blog, my home, and my creative bubble outside of my…

I am not here to share a 5-minute technique to use that will improve your life dramatically. Change, like any good habit, will take time and energy. Think of yourself as you would think of a crop. Once you’ve planted it, it needs time, water, and energy to grow. Your perceptions work similarly. I am a great believer in self-advocated change. Self-awareness is a topic. I avoided it because I didn’t know what it meant. For quite some time, I was blundering around, scrolling through articles, and reading stories about people who found themselves. …

Some girls have already given up on you. Yes, you read it right! Some of us are fed up with the helpless licking and sucking you perform on us. Why you might ask. Licking like dogs won’t make the deal. The same goes for the helpless tongue or the awful biting. We know that you could do better, and that’s why I am writing this.

When oral sex is performed right, it is one of the most pleasant things to encounter. As much as you like to get sucked, we love to get licked. Don’t get me wrong, out there…